Teen Gothic

Every single goth song I’ve heard is always about some vague abstract depressive concept I don’t know how to relate to, with the exception of scary bitches. They’re good objectively, but I just don’t understand it, does anyone have any recommendations or anything?

I follow several music/subculture reddits and almost none of them have people asking if they truly fit the title or not, absolutely none have near as many people asking this as I constantly see here in r/goth.

As far as I've always been concerned, the only opinion that should matter is your own when it comes to self image and applying labels is futile, you're allowed to enjoy something without being boxed in by the eyes of others. That's kind of a major point of punk/goth/metal's foundation as far as I understand it.

I'm not trying to disparage, but I am genuinely curious why this seems so consistant here. Any speculation as to why this particular subreddit seems so desperate for the approval of others and some silly sense of permission to consider themselves a part of the culture?

I am an F18 girl who is at UK Uni studying computer game modelling, with future ambitions to get a job in 3D modelling in the game or animated film industry, with anything 2D/Concept Art related as a backup option, and I like to dress gothic

My style is accepted at my University and at my old college where I was studying BTEC games dev there, both of those places said 'dress professional' but only meant don't come in in your swimwear or pyjamas or offensive T shirts, however I do change something about my style for the classroom and that is that I don't wear fishnet gloves and limit myself to just 1 bracelet/ring per hand (for being practical and comfortable)

But are any of you goths (or just different styles people in general)working in creative jobs that don't involve serving other people allowed to express style in your workplace ? My mother (F55) said that jobs want you to turn your appearance down and she judged people by style when she hired them (such as telling punks to tie their dreadlocks back and take piercings out while working), bearing in mind she worked in this position in the 1980's and worked in public retail stores, also from what I hear at this time a lot people wore suits at jobs and expressing style during work was frowned upon anyway

But on the other hand today I have seen girls online doing 'get ready for me to go to an interview' and some are going full goth, and it seems the only ones who are turning their appearance down are the ones working in retail and formal office jobs (bearing in mind I only saw this on Reddit and Tik Tok)

However I can prove that my freind (M18, and M15 at the time this happened) got some school work experience at a local games company and he is a metalhead and was allowed to wear his band t shirts and have his long hair down even on the first day

What do you guys think, share your thoughts and experience ? Just want to check it before I chance it

I've always been tall and thin and I honestly hate my body. I have a precious little boy who I absolutely adore, he'll be 2 on the 25th. He's definitely a baby bat as well. He baby dances to Peter Murphy, Sisters of Mercy and The Mission. However, since his birth, I've struggled with it even more. I feel like a caricature of a person.

I used to dress goth and I still have the clothes and makeup but don't do it anymore, mostly due to time constraints. I see my friends, socially distanced of course and they still dress up. It's made me feel like I've lost a huge part of who I am.

It's like I want to dress up but can't find the motivation either. I'm honestly kind of depressed about it and it feels like a vicious cycle. I'm also tired of being told I'm lucky I'm thin. I've struggled to gain and maintain weight my entire life.

Anyway, maybe I'm being petty but it's how I feel. I just need someone to listen and thanks for making it this far. Could you guys maybe give me tips on how to slowly incorporate it back in or should I just go nuclear and dress up? Thanks. 🖤

Edit: I guess I'm also a little scared of scaring my son because he's never seen me like that. I know deep down he'll be fine because all he'll see is mommy but I just don't want to shock him I guess.